Last month, we talked all about self-care and how important it is. For the next few weeks, I'll be featuring 8 successful women and their self-care routines. I am so excited to share this fascinating look at the lives of many women I admire.
In addition to sharing the daily routines of women, I'll be hosting a 31 day self-care challenge over on Instagram. Make sure to check it out and join in. Each day, I'll be sharing one thing you can do to take care of yourself. It's going to be a wonderful way to start off a fresh month, and get ready for our Wake Up Call Retreat in April! I'm so excited to do this with you. Be sure to tag your photos with #31dayselfcarechallenge. I'll pick one photo at the end of the month, and the winner will receive $200 off a ticket to the retreat!
Let's get started. First up, we have Juliette Sakasegawa, a life coach and skincare consultant from San Diego, CA. Juliette is passionate about supporting women who want to create a life that they truly love!
Five years ago, after returning to work from maternity leave with my second baby, I had a breakdown of sorts. I was anxious and overwhelmed almost constantly, feeling like I wasn't doing anything well enough, and that I couldn't handle anything anymore. I felt like I was falling apart and I needed to do something, fast, or I was truly going to lose it. I started working with a therapist and quickly realized that I wasn't doing anything just for me. I was worrying about meeting everybody else's needs at home and at work, and I was leaving myself behind. I remember my therapist asking me what I do for me and I looked at her like she'd asked me a question in a different language. I didn't know how to answer her because it wasn't something I had considered. I was under the impression that doing things for myself was selfish and quite frankly unnecessary. I remember telling her that only selfish people take time for themselves.
Five years later, and my mindset is completely different. I have learned that self-care is absolutely not selfish and, in fact, it is necessary!
"I hope that I can support and empower women who are lost like I was. I want everyone to experience the power of self-care."
For me self-care is anything that nourishes my mind, body, or spirit. Self-care is any activity that helps me feel refreshed, rejuvenated, calm, and at peace. Self-care can be an elaborate routine, but it doesn't have to be. It can be a day at the spa, or it can simply be remembering to take a few deep breaths when I'm feeling overwhelmed. The definition of self-care is different for each individual. What is amazing, rejuvenating self-care for one person, may not be for someone else ,and vice versa. I believe it is important to discover what self-care is for you, so you are engaging in it intentionally and benefiting fully from it.
I'm not saying this is easy for me now. It's not. I still struggle with prioritizing self-care. The biggest challenge I face is making time for it. I do my best to schedule it when I plan my week. I make time for self-care on my calendar but, even then, sometimes it gets pushed aside for other things. I'm still working on setting boundaries for myself so I can say no to things that are not priorities, and say yes to more self-care.
I don't have a set self-care routine because my life is hectic and my life is different every day. I try to take walks about 3-4 days a week, I enjoy yoga and meditation but I don't get them in as often as I'd like to, A few days a week, I take a long shower or a bath at night, and I (almost) always take time to wash my face with products that I love. Other forms of self-care that I try to make time for as often as possible are date nights with my husband, dinner or coffee with friends, taking quiet alone time, and listening to music. On the really busy days, I make sure I sit for a few minutes to breathe, drink water, and just be still.
As a busy mom of three kids I take self-care where and when I can get it. I want my kids to know that I need self-care and that it is okay for me to prioritize myself. I want my children to understand the importance and necessity of self-care for themselves, too.
I have not always been aware of the benefits of self-care. If you'd asked me 5 years ago, I would have told you that I didn't need it - much less daily! Now I think about it differently. I believe self-care is important in my daily life. Taking time for myself helps to diminish my anxiety and stress, and allows me to feel more patient and happier in general. Perhaps most importantly, it fills me up emotionally and mentally so I have more to give to my loved ones. Self-care makes me a better mother, wife, friend, and person.
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring self-care journey, Juliette!
Don't forget to head over to Instagram to keep the self-care inspiration going. See you there!