If I've learned anything in this life, it's that the things that scared me the most are usually the most rewarding. This has been true through my whole career journey - from leaving my amazing position in corporate America to be a stay at home mom, starting my own business, and recently becoming a Certified Life Coach. I can remember feeling both fear and excitement every single time! It's not about being absent of fear, it's about choosing excitement over fear.
Here are 5 tips that I've personally used to help overcome the fear that inevitably pops up in life.
The first thing to do is recognize the fear. Knowing is a great thing, but looking it in the eyes and challenging it is even greater. Ask yourself the question: can you name what you're afraid of? What's the thing you don't want to happen? Will your next step harm you in any way? What will you gain if you take the next step? What will you lose if you don't? What goes on inside you when you attempt to tackle this?
2. Let Go
Let go of the need to always have security in your life. Safety can feel great, but you can't live your life entirely inside of a safety bubble. Sometimes we need to take a chance! And most of the time, that's where the magic ends up showing up. We are creatures of comfort and familiarity; so get comfortable with being uncomfortable. If we let this fear stop us, we may not experience some of the amazing things that life has ahead for us.
Challenge yourself this month to do one new thing that makes you uncomfortable and afraid. After you have completed it, journal about it… how did it make you feel?
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch
Get to know your fear. Analyze it. Is this the type of fear that's holding you back from doing amazing things like starting your own business, changing careers, asking that guy on a date, or moving to your dream city? Or is it the fear that keeps you from jumping out of a plane without a parachute? Some fear is meant to protect us, but a lot of the fear we walk around with all day just keeps us small and scared. Just make sure you know the difference.
Think of a situation where you are afraid of failing. Visualize yourself now hitting an obstacle, allow yourself to feel the fear, and then see yourself moving forward. Next, spend a few minutes planning how to overcome whatever obstacles may stand in your way. Then see yourself succeeding despite these obstacles. When we visualize things, our mind doesn't know the difference between what we're imagining and it actually happening. We get used to the feeling of success, and then we create that success in real life. It's pretty amazing!
5. Have Faith
Sometimes you just have to throw your hands up in the air and have a little faith that everything will work out just fine! It's that leap of faith that will make all the difference!
“If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared.” – Glennon Doyle Melton
Failure is always a possibility, but it's not a reason to live life in fear. Failure isn't the worst thing that can happen to you. Not living the life you want is. You can fail at a lot of things, so you may as well fail trying something you really want.
I believe in you! Get out there and conquer those fears. Trust me, it's worth it.